Have you ever noticed that the word LISTEN is spelt with the same letters as the word SILENT?
To listen effectively, you have to be silent; it is not enough that you close your mouth. You must also stop your mind from chattering. You have to be really silent.
YOU ARE QUITE BUT ARE YOU “SILENT” ?
If the mind is filled with questions to ask, your own points to make, your own arguments to bring against the speaker, or critisism of the speaker’s style, appearence, manners, clothing, etc. , your mind is not silent. If your mind is engaged with these or other things, the speaker’s words cannot enter mind fully.
UNLOCKING THE ROCKET-SCIENCE DEFINITION BEHIND “SILENCE”:
Being silent does not mean being dumb or being half – asleep; it means keeping aside all your thoughts and concentrating on the words, the tone and the body language of the speaker. It also means responding with your own body language.
SMARTNESS IN “SILENCE”!
1. A few minutes of complete silence every day is very useful for developing your communication skills.
2. Silence helps you clarify your goals.
3. Silencing your mind is helpful so that you can listen to yourself and become aware of your self-talk.
SELF – TALK IN SILENCE:
Your Self- Talk affects your self-esteem and your ability to listen to other peoples point of view and. Make sure you talk to yourself respectfully. If you feel sure of you own worth, you will feel more secure and not get angry and exited when you hear views contrary to yours. This is an important way to develop your own ability to listen.