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Wheel of Life – A Holistic Development Approach

Life is multifaceted. Development is sustainable only when it is holistic in nature.

But wait! What do we mean by the term Holistic Development’? It means that we want to develop the whole person, including, the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual being. Holistic development recognizes that we co-create and evolve in all the aspects of our life.

Recently I happen to visit a spiritual expo, where I came across a tool called “Wheel of Life” that enables one to make an overall assessment of satisfaction in the significant areas of one’s life. This tool allows to take a visual snapshot of life as it exists in the present moment and makes us realize the areas which require further development.

THE EIGHT ELEMENTS EXERCISE

The Wheel of Life includes all major areas of life: career, money, health, friends & family, romance, personal growth, fun & recreation and physical environment. The exercise is to assign a rating from one to five for each of these areas. A score of one indicates low ratings is the one that needs your priority at present.

The recent modification in my Goal Book involved me setting us goals in line with the  eight pillar of the “Wheel of Life” model. As an outcome, not only did I feel that I am focusing equally on all the critical aspects in my life, but also felt that I am developing the otherwise less-cared-for areas of life. 

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SUMMING UP

In order to choose the direction in our life, we need to know where we are standing at this moment of time. Wheel of Life tool gives us a whole picture of all the essential parameters for holistic development.

Vipassana

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Locked in silence

I wonder

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All touch, words and share

I surrender

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Silent senses makes way for

The hidden and the sealed

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Under Vipassana, I prepare to heal

The unhealed

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A long distance to span

For the wholeness

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A long distance to span

For the Oneness!

Vipassana, which means to see things as they really are, is one of India’s most ancient techniques of meditation. It was taught in India more than 2500 years ago as a universal remedy for universal ills, i.e., an Art of Living.

For more details on the healing method, you can log on to – http://www.dhamma.org/

Shadows Shed The Ugly Skin!

Plucked away, abandoned, called them ‘Sin’,
Discarded thoughts but hail from the same mental kin.
Releasing the repressed thoughts from the subconscious bin,
Life evolves when shadows shed the ugly skin!

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Cacophony, the thoughts and their noisy din,
Dumped and forgotten, they lay suppressed emblazoning the grief within.
Ferocious wings behind the tiny fin,
Life evolves when shadows shed the ugly skin!

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Life is but a balance of Yang and Yin,
To heal, I choose to accept the hidden malign.
Evolution is to fail, then learn and finally win,
Life evolves when shadows shed the ugly skin!

 

A Difficult Childhood ~ A deep insight by Dr. Rajiv Naidu

How many times have we said to ourselves and others that we underwent a difficult childhood. Being socially inclined, it is only when such deep feelings are shared,  do people form tighter bounds. It helps to explain why people do what they do!

Yet, the question remains what are we doing about the difficult childhood? Are we taking responsibility for it? Have we accepted that black spot, and,  most importantly, are we ready to look beyond it?

With the intention to know more about getting rid of this early baggage, I enrolled for Hypnotherapy course by CHII. On one such course day, my mentor Dr. Rajiv Naidu happened to share a very important theory on life. And trust me, my understanding about life changed that very moment! So only people who really think they need to know one such solution to this grass-root problem should read beyond…

Dr. Rajiv Naidu told me, “Our Soul goes through many, many lifetimes. Each lifetime has its own lesson to learn. Our Soul designs every lifetime. It decides our family, friends, lover, and place where we are born, and all this is according to the lessons that one has to learn in life. That helps us understand why we have the parents or lovers that we have.”

“It is complicated for someone like me to understand. I don’t get a word of what you are talking.”, I looked at him with blank expression.

Rajiv Sir patiently replied, “I can see that! (Laughs). Let’s take this example-  Suppose your lesson to be learned in this lifetime is – The Value Of Money-  then, your soul will automatically choose parents who are not wealthy or your soul will choose parents who are very wealthy but loose all their money. This is because only when you do not have money will you realize the value of money.”

“So the Soul decides my family, or the experiences in my life  on the basis of the lesson that I have to learn.  But, how do I come to know the lesson to be learned?” I asked.

” You close your eyes, take deep breaths; remember the critical incidences of your life; and you look at what was the thing that you always wanted but you could never have. That, my dear, is what you are here to learn!”

I closed my eyes, took few deep breaths.  And reflected at my life. Suddenly, it all made a perfect sense! I was to learn  Inner-Peace in this lifetime. That explained the turmoil I faced. Only when I know turmoil, will I encourage myself to take steps towards Peace. And this explained my childhood, my present, and somewhere, my future as well. Life, now, became an enlightening journey towards finding Peace where turbulence was by- default a part of it. I stopped blaming people in my life because it was not them.. it was me! It is I who has to learn the lessons of Peace. People and situations around me are simply teaching me.

“But what if this is just a theory. What if there are no lifetimes. Or what if Inner- Peace is not what I have to learn and there is something beyond? ” , I asked.

“What is truth? Who knows? if given a choice, would you believe in this theory and live life having faith in yourself. Or would you reject it and continue being a part of the ugly black loop of difficult childhood?  The choice is all yours!

It was then, that I chose to take responsibility of my life, leaving the blame game at the bay. So, this is MY life and I have chosen the situations that are happening to me. I have learned (and i am learning) to choose to accept  difficult situation in my life. Most importantly, I choose to be grateful, to people in my life because they are simply helping me learn what I am ought to learn in this lifetime! 

 
 
About Dr. Rajiv Naidu:
 
An exceptional Clinical Hypnotherapist, Dr. Rajiv Naidu is an established Trainer at California Hypnotherapy Institute of India (Basic & Advanced Level). He has developed a unique Therapy called Core Somatic Integration which is influenced from Taichi and his enriching experience as a counselor. A truly amazing person who not only continues to heal me, but also guides me in my journey of achieving wholeness.
 
You can connect to him on LinkedIn –
http://www.linkedin.com/pub/rajiv-naidu/22/878/8bb
 
 

TEST YOUR LISTENING SKILLS

Are these statements true or false?

1. Practicing a few moments of silence everyday is useful for becoming a good listener.

2. You should ask questions immediately after the speaker stops to how that you have listened carefully.

3. Listen with empathy implies that you agree with the speaker.

4. To show that you are be quick to respond to the speakers emotion.

5. Putting the speaker at ease is a good listening practice.

6. A Silent mind helps you listen well.

7. If you do not like what the speaker is saying you should change the topic.

8. When someone talk about a problem it is not useful to give advise.

9. If you do not quite understand the speaker you should summaries to check your understanding.

10. Listening speed is much faster that speaking speed.

EVALUATE YOURSELF:

1. TRUE

2. FALSE

3. False

4. False

5. True

6. True

7. False

8. True

9. True

10. True